Create your own happiness
There is so much more to life than finding someone who will want you, or being sad over someone who doesn’t. There’s a lot of wonderful time to be spent discovering yourself without hoping someone will fall in love with you along the way, and it doesn’t need to be painful or empty.You need to fill yourself up with love. Not anyone else. Become a whole being on your own. Go on adventures, fall asleep in the woods with friends, wander around the city at night, sit in a coffee shop on your own, write on bathroom walls, leave notes in library books, dress up for yourself, give to others, smile a lot. Do all things with love but don’t romanticize life like you can’t survive without it. Live for yourself and and be happy on your own. It isn’t any less beautiful, I promise. – Emery Allen
A few years ago, I gave in to society by accepting that it was not ok being single. It made me so miserable, it took me a while to realize that I have a whole life ahead of me and I am going to live it to the fullest, whether I am single or not.
Since the realization that there is more to life than being attached, yes, I have been to many adventures, I have traveled to places I dream of going, I have discovered my talent in writing and passion in dance, I have sat in coffee shops alone, I have wandered around aimlessly in the city, I have dressed up for myself and like what I see in the mirror, I have dedicated time to eating and living a healthy lifestyle, I have given my time to my loved ones and made them smile, I have done it all. I created happiness for everyone around me and along the way, I made myself happy too.
Happiness is not a circumstance, it is conscious effort. Thus, only do the things that make you happy.
I love everything about it, thus I documented everything that I want to remember forever. It is beautiful. It has been worthwhile.Therefore, when people ask me what I do, I have problems summarizing it in one breath. I am not what I do in my job. I am a whole universe of passions and adventures.
So girls, I hope you realize this sooner than I did.
Photo taken in Vienna, Austria in June 2015.